The Four Agreements

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The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz was recommended to me.

The four agreements are basically rules to live by.  They’re quite simple, but all encompassing.  I can see how following them will lead to peace and contentment.

Spoiler Alert–These are the four agreements:

  1.  Be impeccable with your word:  use your words to create beauty, love and heaven on earth.
  2. Don’t take anything personally (this is a hard one for me.)
  3. Don’t make assumptions (another hard one for me.)
  4. Always do your best.

There’s more to the book, but this is the meat and potatoes.

I’m trying to let go of my old ways to embrace these four agreements.  I hope, in time, the agreements become second nature and I don’t have to consciously decide to follow them.  In the meantime, just being aware that I’m taking something personally or making an assumption has been helpful.

The Chihuahua verdict:  four paws up!

Why Not?

009I’m not going to lie.  I’ve been a bit down lately.

It’s hard to meet people in this new town.  The cottage has lost its appeal.  The new job is both busier and newer than I expected.  (Don’t get me started on the technology challenges!)

And the divorce…

It’s like a threatening shadow looming over me, hiding the sun.  It’s making me wilt, and I worry that I’ll never bloom again.

What’s a sad and lonely bookworm to do when things get to be too much?  Scour the self-help shelf of the nearest book shop, of course.

I ordered a Brene Brown book.

The lady at Talewind Books recommended Why Not? by Cathy Code while I wait for it to arrive.

Why Not? is an easy read.  I finished it in one afternoon.

Cathy Code, who went through her own divorce (along with a catastrophic fire, traumatic childhood experiences, sudden death of a beloved partner…) is relentlessly optimistic.  She shares her personal experiences and includes “think positive/it could be worse” exercises at the end of every chapter.

I like the message.  I just don’t know if it’s really me.

I’m not as optimistic as Cathy Code, so a gentler approach would probably resonate more with me.  (Think:  “Your life might not be a total disaster” rather than “Everything’s going to be wonderful and you will survive and thrive!!!”)

When I reached the part about Code’s fabulous post-divorce social life and the two amazing men with whom she had deep and satisfying relationships, I felt like a loser–not the outcome I was hoping for when I went the self-help route.

Sigh–back to the drawing board.