Nobody respects a cream puff unless it turns up on an afternoon tea trolley.
The same goes for push overs, wimps and wuses. They get steamrolled by more aggressive personalities.
Sadly, if you’re not willing to stand up for yourself, you’ll be screwed over. If you’re going through a divorce, the person doing the screwing will be the one who once vowed to love, honor and cherish you.
So, to all the ladies who are supposed to receive child support: if the ex doesn’t pay or doesn’t pay the full amount, please, please, PLEASE don’t just let it go.
I did. I figured since my Boy and I were getting by, I didn’t need to raise a stink to collect the full amount from the Sailor.
Why is it such a big deal to let child support slide if you’re not using the Food Bank to feed the kids and you have a roof over your heads?
- You’re actually short changing your children when you let unpaid child support go. That money was awarded for your kiddos’ comfort and security. You’d never steal money from them, so why would you let some deadbeat effectively do it by withholding child support?
- It costs money to raise happy, healthy children–lots of money. The Cash Fairy isn’t going to step in and help just because your ex isn’t meeting his/her parenting obligations. You’ll see your own savings for things like retirement or the kids’ post secondary education dwindle as you cough up more and more to meet the child support short fall.
- Don’t assume everything will even out in the divorce because karma will be on your side. Hello!–an ex who will screw over his kids isn’t going to be bothered about treating you fairly and respectfully. It’s much easier to fix the financial messes as they happen, rather than hoping to collect years of unpaid child support retroactively.